Real heroes don’t really wear capes or have supernatural powers. In the real world, HERO’s are simply ordinary people who choose to respond to a set of circumstances in a way that inspires others. And it IS possible to develop the HERO inside you.
But before you can lead others, you must first learn to lead yourself.
That’s how you develop into a HERO.
The Hero Inside
There are battles inside you that go on every day, and those battles are the reason that you haven’t accomplished as much as you promised yourself you would back on New Year’s Eve. Internally, there is a part of you – a HERO – that wants to succeed and has strong values and great ideas and when you wake up it is your best self that is energized and bold and determined.
Friedrich Nietzsche called it the Übermensch. The term, loosely translated, means “superhuman.”
But your best self, your internal hero, has enemies…
- Every day your HERO has to wage a battle against distractions, and disappointment, and disparagement.
- Every day he has to struggle with ghosts of regret or monsters of misfortune.
- Our history, things that happened in the past.
- And our experiences, things that happen to us and around us, can sometimes seem devastating.
Fighting Your Battles
Imagine being a recently divorced woman, caring for a 3-month old daughter, forced to go on welfare after losing her job. Those would be hard battles to fight! And even though those circumstances and experiences are dangerous adversaries, they are not as powerful or impactful as our internal response to them.
If we respond poorly, we experience more painful outcomes. We become victims of our own negative responses.
People, and teams, are not victims of circumstances. They only feel this way when they do not develop and use the HERO within them.
Winning the Battles Within
Too often our internal HERO’s greatest threat is our own fear, or contentment, or excuses, or doubts… those deceitful soldiers that protect the walls of our comfort zone. And it is amazing what sometimes we can allow ourselves to grow comfortable with.
But if you want to develop the HERO within you and accomplish your ambitious goals, you have to:
- Exile your excuses
- Dump your doubts
- Crash through that comfort zone that has caged you
The HERO Formula
So, what separates the average man from Nietzsche’s Übermensch?
The answer is a simple equation. H + E x R = O
History + Events x Response = Outcomes
We cannot control our history… or the events that occur to and around us. But we CAN control our RESPONSE to them. And no matter what the first parts of the equation are, OUR RESPONSE DETERMINES THE OUTCOME!
To get something different, to feel something different, to become something different, you will have RESPOND differently!
I offer team building for teachers, for athletes, and for corporate groups that inspire unity and boost morale, but the key to any group’s improvement is each individual within the group claiming responsibility for their response to the history and events around them.
The HERO Attitude
Remember that single mother we imagined above? Well that was J K Rowling, author of the famous Harry Potter series. She developed her HERO because she decided to choose a positive response to her circumstances.
We cannot control our circumstances. But we can control our responses. Regardless of the circumstance, we get to choose our attitude and our actions. We can develop a victim attitude and spiral down, or the kind that J K Rowling did and ascend far beyond expectations.
And if you keep a good attitude and take appropriate action consistently, those habits will lead you to accomplishing the goals you have set for yourself.
But your focus must be on changing the equation with a quality response. The world is not going to change and we remain victims as long as we are waiting on someone or something else to change for us.
Becoming a HERO
So, how does one become a HERO? Commit to responding to your history and your experiences as your best self. Remember, you cannot choose where you were planted – but you CAN choose to bloom there.
Want to improve your organization and inspire team development? Want to improve your family? Your community? Your workplace? Then develop the HERO inside you. Your example and responses WILL impact others. Whatever your history or experiences, your response to the events you experience will determine your teams success.
So how are you responding to your past and current situations in life, at work, and in your community? Are you mentally stuck in the past and still paying a heavy price? If so, WHY? What steps can you take today to reprogram your responses so that you can get those superhuman results and lets the HERO soar? I would love to hear your thoughts!
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